milestones

A year ago yesterday I had a mammogram, ultra-sound and needle biopsy. 1 year ago yesterday I knew even though it wasn’t official that I had breast cancer. 1 year ago today I had no idea what I was in for or how I would turn out. I was terrified, I know that. And I remember that I kept trying to minimize the seriousness of what was happening to me. If I’d known a year ago what I was in for I’m not sure I’d have gone through it all. If I’d known that today I’d lose all my hair and my confidence with it I don’t know if I’d have done it all.

My new hairdo

People talk of cancer survivors as being brave and courageous. I’ve never thought of myself as being either of those and still can’t. I wasn’t in a position to decide to be brave. I did decide I had no choice but the treatment path offered to me. To me that’s not brave or courageous. That’s choosing life.
Today is my 49th birthday. Tonight I celebrated not only my birthday but the fact that I was here for it. It’s not bravery or courage that got me through the treatment I had in this past year. It was that I wanted to see my 50th birthday.