One of the fall outs from ‘this’ is that cancer has, I think, become more real for my sister.  She talks of ‘when’ not ‘if’.  Part of me doesn’t blame her, the other part wishes she wouldn’t think like that.  But there are 2 kinds of cancer that the women in my family get, pre and post menopausal.  She has a few years to wait on the pre kind.  If she doesn’t get it then she gets to wait for the post.  Not a nice thing to have rolling around in your mind all the time.  My nieces have breast cancer on both sides of their family, I think that may increase their lottery for getting breast cancer.   I hope not.  I’m hoping that by spending all this time with me, going to appointments, looking after me, and all that stuff, that my sister doesn’t fear it as much.  It took a lot of the fear away when I did the same with my mom.  Looking at it all that way, I guess I’m a little lucky.  I don’t have to wait for it to happen to me anymore.  And I hope you know sis, that IF you do get breast cancer, I’ll be there for you, every step of the way.